Let’s be honest. Planning weddings is HARD WORK. People don’t tell you the amount of stress you encounter when you are on the journey to your wedding date and with 12yrs under my belt as a married woman I can tell you that spending all that time and energy on the wedding and not actually figuring out what it will look like to be a spouse to the person you chose is just not the best use of your time.

So Anshwa, what are you saying and how does this help me plan my wedding?!?!? Well for starters you and your fiance need to get real serious about establishing your married business. (more on that in a separate post). And the second thing you need to do is stop stressing over planning your wedding and get your joy back!

1. It’s ok to take breaks. It may seem coutnerintuitive but taking breaks from planning is good for your mental health and your pocket book. I always tell my clients that there are certain vendors you need to book up front and the others you book on the back end when planning a wedding. To find out more about this unique approach that simplifies plannning, schedule a consult call today to find out more. 
2. Divide and conquer. In wedding planning one partner (typically the bride) is always putting in more effort on planning the wedding. Not because the other partner doesn’t want to help but becasue the really excited partner is typically more controlling and just wants to live and breathe the wedding. When this happens one partner is always more burned out than the other. The way to avoid this is to divide and conquer on the wedding tasks. If one partner is booking the cake, selecting the meal and building the timeline of events, the other can take on the conversations with the DJ and the officiant. This is a great exercise in building trust that each other will take care of what they are assigned because you’re going to need to trust each other to get things done as a married couple long after you’ve planned your wedding.

Shorten your guest list. I know this one may throw you for a loop but having a lot of wedding guests automatically makes planning more stressful. More people to follow up with, more place setting and meals to purchase, more RSVPs to track. But try cutting your guest list (I dare you to cut it in half!) and watch some of that stress automatically melt away and get the joy back into planning your wedding.

If you need help taking some of the burden off planning your special day – get in touch, let’s chat!