Some girls dream of their wedding day from a young age. I, on the other hand dreamt of what life would be like after the wedding day. Ask me what I wanted to be when I was 16 and the response would have been ‘A Wife and a Mom’. I wasn’t naive though. I knew that becoming a wife and mom weren’t in my control. But what I could control was how I set myself up for the unforeseeable future. Which is why I attended the United States Military Academy and became an officer in the Army. By doing so, I became completely capable of taking care of myself and preparing for my dream role as CEO a of the household.
Fast forward to present day and low and behold God grant me the desires of my heart. I am a proud wife and mom. For those of you who hold those titles (and for my brides who soon will) it is not all fairy dust and and lollipops like I thought it would be growing up. It. Is. Hard. Work. And not a task for the faint at heart. So when you tack on to those titles also being a career woman…OMG – ish gets sooooo real….
Last week was my first week back as a full on career woman and it was tough. I found myself thinking how nice it would be if I were a Stay at Home Mom. I’ve had discussions with other new mommies about this very topic and after hearing experiences from veterans on both sides of the aisle, I know it is tough whether you bring home the bacon or contribute to your family in other ways.
After you become a wife you develop a strong sense of pride in managing your household and making sure home is a sweet place to come to each day. I learn more and more everyday about how to be a better wife to my husband and mother to my son. But because I seek perfection in these rolls, I have become overwhelmed very easily with getting basic, every day tasks completed.
I came up with a chart and a spreadsheet and I thought it would be simple enough to put into practice. What I forgot to account for was how many times tackling chores would be interrupted by spending time with my husband, feeding my son and spending time with him, getting out of the house for meetings, planning weddings and…life. So when I looked at my to do list last night and realized just how much I did not complete last week, despite all of my planning, it bummed me out.
My hubby brought to my attention that my list of tasks for the day would take more hours than what actually existed in a day and that made so much since to me! Then I got to thinking…how can I get better at this? How can I get everything done between working, play with my son and not neglect my husband?
So I called on good ole Pinterest and found some great inspiration for managing household work. You can check out the tips I found on my board SuperMom and Wife . The principles I picked up on involved assigning one day a week to do a certain task and once a month to do tasks that are completed less often (like pet grooming for example). So I am going to try a new schedule this week incorporating those principles and spending only 20 minutes a day to complete them. What’s not done at that end of that 20 minutes will have to wait until next time. This plan will maximize my quality time with family and minimize the time I am spending working on managing the home without neglecting either.
They say it takes 21 days to form a new habit so this marks day one 😉 I’ll keep you posted in the New Year with how well the new schedule is going.
What scheduling techniques are working for you and your home?